A new mom’s worst enemy is herself. Take a little time-out today and listen to your thoughts. Have you said something mean to yourself, such as:
“I am the worst mom.”
“If I was more organized, I would have been able to get the whole house cleaned up today.”
“I should be enjoying this more. I’ve wanted a baby my whole life.”
“Other moms seem to be managing this much better than I am”.
These kinds of thoughts are totally normal for new moms. Imagine if you just took up a new hobby, like running. In the first few months, running is more likely to be painful than enjoyable. You might often feel disappointed that you are not able to run as far as you would like, or as far as other people can. Well, raising a baby also involves learning new skills – tons of them. It is not surprising that new moms feel overwhelmed and as if they do not measure up.
Don’t take these nasty thoughts as fact. When you realize that you are being mean to yourself, ask, “Would I say this to my sister or my best friend?” If the answer is no, reconsider the thought. Talk to yourself in a respectful way, just the way you’d talk to your sister or best friend if she was having a hard day at home with a new baby.