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I love it. It perfectly captures what The Calm Mom is all about.
Being a mom is darn hard. Yes, there are blissful moments in there and boy are they great, but a lot of the time it does feel like climbing Mount Everest. Like today….when I had to get my dress-obsessed, pink-preferring, 6-year old into pants (because it was gym day) and head-to-toe blue and white (because it was school spirit day). By the time I got her on the bus this morning, I felt like I had climbed Mount Everest and I was ready to go back to bed.
Here is something to think about, fellow Moms. I think becoming a mom involves a little bit of mourning. A little bit of getting over what we THOUGHT parenthood or our kids were going to be like and ACCEPTING what it really is like. Parenthood is a million times harder than I would have ever thought. And, my kids are really different from how I thought they would be. I think problems come about because of negative thoughts (“It should be easier,” “I must be doing something wrong”) or because we try to change things that can’t be totally changed (“I wish I had a mellower kid,” “I wish my child wasn’t anxious,” “I wish my child wasn’t allergic to peanuts.”) Most parents, and most kids, are trying their absolute best. What we need to do is less changing and more accepting. It is totally okay to see parenting as hard. It is totally okay to feel disappointment about certain traits, behaviors, or problems that our kids bring to the table. But, rather than trying constantly to push against….the question is….how can I take what I have been given and make things work most of the time for our family?
Drop me a line about your challenges. What are you constantly trying to change in your family but finding frustrating instead? Maybe we can shift from change to acceptance and find a better solution…..